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Knox to join CBF staff as part of expansion initiative in the Southwest 

So proud of Marv Knox! What a fine Christian man he is. KUDOS!

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April 13, 2017

By Jeff Huett and Aaron Weaver 

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DECATUR, Ga. – A preeminent Baptist journalist and thought leader in Texas who has covered the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship from its inception will join the CBF staff to promote Baptist identity, Christian cooperation and effective missions and ministry in the Southwest United States.

Marv Knox, the editor/publisher of the Baptist Standard Publishing Company headquartered in Dallas, will join the CBF staff as field coordinator of Fellowship Southwest on August 1. He has served at the Baptist Standard since 1999, where he currently edits a weekly digital news journal and a print magazine called CommonCall.

Fellowship Southwest is a new regional network announced in February that will supplement the work of three autonomous CBF state/regional organizations — CBF of Texas, CBF of Oklahoma and CBF West. It is a part of a CBF expansion initiative that includes further integration…

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Ashes to Ashes…in the Trunk

Fifteen years ago today my father passed away.  He was irrefutable evidence of the axiom that the nicest people in the world get cancer. Per his request, after he died, he was cremated. Now his soul is in Heaven while his Earthly remains are on the top of his dresser next to his french knot cufflinks and Aviators. When visiting me, Mom would put the Pop Box in the trunk of her Dodge Intrepid. When I saw Pop in her trunk and I questioned why his ashes were her plus one she replied that she was afraid that the house would catch fire and that his ashes would be burned. True story.

And why would she possibly see the irony in this? He was her person and she was his. A scrappy Detroiter, Pop moved to Houston to attend U of H and was the first in his family to earn a college degree. Mimi was a beautiful Chi-Omega from L.S.U. with a teaching job and a car. Just a few weeks after their blind date the young buck proposed. I remember my dad’s sisters telling me how shocked they were that he found someone like her. He wasn’t, his strategy was to ask out the really pretty girls which intimidated everyone else and make them laugh. Humor wins every time.

Pop was a hands-on father before men did that. He routinely took my two older brothers and me to The Herman Park Zoo while Mimi graded papers and frocked herself up a home perm. Because my father’s father was chronically ill, he gave us three the engagement he craved but never received in his youth. The singular time I saw my dad cry was at a family reunion when he recounted fishing trips with his much-older brother-in-law Paul whose fatherly kindness had a profound effect upon him. It was as if Pop couldn’t wait to have a family just to get it right.

Whatever I tried and whether I lost or won, I grew up knowing that I was totally adored. I was enough just by virtue that I was his child. There were certainly times when my infractions called for discipline but it truly did hurt him more than it did me. After all, he wanted everyone to like him. I knew that home was my soft place to fall in a cruel, cruel world. Even as a chubbette with a mushroom-cloud haircut and mosquito-bitten legs  I didn’t need to be beautiful to be beautiful to him.

My father loved quotes. Pithy morsels of irony, humor or wisdom. These favorite sayings have have echoed in my brain today:

-The most expensive piece of clothing in your closet is the one you never wear. (He was a haberdasher.)

-Disappointment is based on expectations.

-Kisses aren’t contracts.

-Don’t sweat the small stuff.

-Birth control with your mother was easy. When she laid an egg I didn’t want I’d step on it.

-If you want to be interesting, ask people about themselves.

-Fashion is what they give you. Style is something you create on your own.

-If I had it to do all over again, I would pray more and worry less.

 

Rest in peace William Edward Richardson, Sr. We miss you every day.

 

 

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After 2 Hours of Taking Pictures

  
Right behind abdominal cramps and losing a six-pound bass inches from the boat come photo shoots on Jack’s list of beat-downs.  Despite his disdain for taking pictures at least he smiles on que now. Nice to have gotten past the “stare in the opposite direction of everyone in the picture” phase. He would be bodily present in the picture but made you regret forcing the issue. 

Jack has made significant strides in modeling. I gotta give him his due. But after 2 hours of Senior pictures we look up and notice Jack is striking the mother of all Harlequinn Romance Novel Cover poses. Pearl snap buttons unsnapped and face seriously funny. There is something so primal about humor. It is the language of choice in our family and Jack is a master linguist at it. 

Here’s to the class of 2017. How entertained we are by our Senior. 

 

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I Highly Recommend the Table Saw

So many of you have asked about just how I managed to become a wood shop cliché, I felt the need to clear the sawdust and explain the tale of the table saw.  For starters, some have suggested that I incorporate the near-ampututation of my right pointer, middle and ring fingers into my comedy. Nice. What do you think I am, friends? A humor machine mining my pain for other’s enjoyment? What would I even say? “Don’t ask Santa for a table saw unless you want hand surgery from The Easter Bunny?” When I asked my son what he ate for lunch and he said the three finger basket, I said seriously, “Too soon.”

The accident happened (passive voice) on a Wednesday Morning when my son Jack had a delayed school start time (only third one this year.) John’s father was very sick at Baylor Hospital in Dallas in the ICU undergoing risky surgery only because the of danger of delay was an even greater risk.  He left early to be in Dallas with Dad. At home  I gathered my weathered wood to fashion arrows for teacher appreciation decorations. I love the sentiment of teachers extending their influence through these seniors who will soon be very far flung. I fired up the saw and made a few. I decided to pause so I reached for the off switch with my left hand and reached for the arrow with my right before the blade had completely come to rest.

I snatched my searing hand back and immediately began screaming. I ran into the house and Jack assessed the situation, ( my mother is re-enacting the Dan Akroid / Julia Childs blood spurting SNL sketch) gave me a paper towel and said in a calm manner, “Mom, I’m taking you to the E.R. Let’s go. I continued the high-pitched “God help me!” shrieks inside the confines of the F-250 until I settled on repeating the 23rd Psalm. When I reached verse four which references walking through the shadow of death Jack interrupted with his admonition that I was not quite THERE yet.

I told him not to tell John because I did not want to distract from his time with his Dad. I mean we can all multitask but really, people, one harrowing medical issue at a time here. Jack dropped me off and as I raced into the Emergency Room intake area I was befuddled by the registration kiosk. The elderly security professional offered to take a stab at the computerized screen and I defaulted to my God help me mantra, just not so loudly. An R.N. appeared to streamline the registration and they ushered me in my saw dusty pajama-pant, permed-troll-doll-hair-lookin’ self to room number 11. Then the doctor and the nice drug people came. Unfortunately the pain relief delivery system was a series of shots at the base of my fingers but God did help me and soon I was radically better.

My son kept watchful care over room #11 and it dawned on me that he needed to email Loyola so that they would know he was not taking a Senior Skip Day. Chris at the front desk does an excellent job tracking her LCP Students. So Jack sent a non-chalant email mentioning that his mom needed a ride to the hospital and that we were all good.  Immediately Chris called to check on me and when she could not get me, called John who knew nothing about the accident. Phone less because of our panicked departure, John was unable to reach Jack or me. John’s CALL ME text appeared on Jack’s iPad and we sensed that the jig was up.

He face timed John and told him that it was all under control. Righty was patched up, pain meds prescribed and an appointment with a hand surgeon slated for the next day. Lisa swung by our home to get the center pieces for our teacher’s lounge and make sure servers were covered. Luckily the Senior Girl Mom rep had coordinated the lunch beautifully so that was a relief. Aprile took me to the appointment Thursday and efficiently slogged through 30 pages of paperwork. When she delivered the papers to the registration lady, she was given an iPad with still more questions. I was holding it together well through the battery of questions about flatulence, alcohol and history of itchy scalp until she reached the question, “Can you easily wash your own back?” I looked at her and busted out laughing. “Who easily washes their own back? Yoga instructors and contortionists maybe.” The dam of anxiety and trauma broke and an unstoppable, raucous flood of laughter lurched forth.

John returned home and accompanied me to my surgery the next day. Surgery was successful and painless until the nurse asked John if he could help me redress. Dr. Bildebeck (Build-A-Bear…he sure knows how to sew you up!) was masterful, tendons are reattached and rehab begins this week. My hand modeling days may be over but I am crazy grateful to be five for five.

My sweet father-in-law is making a miraculous recovery himself and we are attributing that to answered prayer. I have had more hours in stillness than I can remember. And more casserole-shaped love from friends who love us so well. Beyond the support I have the deep security of knowing that my child, just like his father, is who you want in a crisis.  I am thankful and expect a full recovery. I am done with power tools and only get Bob the Builder plastic ones from here on out.  Once more when the terrifying storm passes what has surfaced is the love of God and deep generosity of people.

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Awakening

“Ascesis then is awakening from the sleepwalking of daily life. It enables The Word to clear the silt away in the depth of the soul, freeing the spring of living waters. The Word can restore to its original brightness the tarnished image of God in us, the silver coin that has rolled in the dust, but remains stamped with the king’s likeness (Luke  15: 8-10). It is the Word who acts, but we have to cooperate with him, not so much by exertion of willpower as by loving attentiveness” – Oliver Clement
It’s time to rise,

With strongest will,

And resolve to be,

Frenetically still.
We need not conjure,

Nor fabricate,

It takes the empty,

To house The Great. 

-jh

 

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Rehab

It is time I came clean. It seems that no matter how hard I try to beat this on my own I just cannot. I. Love. Rehab. Adore it. Addicted to it. In each dilapidated space I see potential. I imagine that each ramshackle residence I pass could be beautiful with just a few gallons of paint and a new screened door. Or a new roof and a bulldozer for a precious few but I see original glory in those little places with overgrown grass and lazy gutters.

We have owned seven homes and our sixth was the newest we had ever purchased. The floors were pristine, the backsplash up to date, the deck wasn’t a demo. It was truly awful. It was perfect and did not need me. At all. In fact, I could only serve to mess it UP. It was a beautiful reno hiatus but I did not feel like it would be our forever home. It was an awesome address with incredible neighbors but then again we couldn’t park the bass boat out in the driveway like the true classless people we are.

I called Andy our realtor eighteen months ago because he knows my flair for the nomadic. I told him that we wanted something a little older with a few projects to keep me busy. I then threw the full force of my intermittent Adderall-Infused attention to realtor.com. I found a perfect looking house with serious internal issues so we walked away.  Then I saw The Patton House. The first time I did a drive-by was Halloween night and the scene of costumed children and neighborhood parties was something so HGTV, it confirmed that we needed to try for this one.

The grey brick  house had a large window which was circular at the top and I was in love. As I perused our honeymoon pictures months later, I realized why. My favorite photos from that week is in front of the main entrance to The Cloister on Sea Island which had an identical window, just grander.  I assume that is why it spoke to me. We got in to see the home the next day and to my great joy there was a dilapidated Butler’s quarters in the back yard. HOT DOG! A project! We made an offer and were moved in before Christmas. You know, the slowest time of the year.

We have moved a wall or two, gutted the kitchen and painted everything inside but patiently waiting in the backyard was the Butler, a perpetual burr under my saddle. So I began to tackle Rhett this week. My renovation is mainly cosmetic: ship-lapping walls, patching floors and opening him up a little. I’d love a light & airy she-shed. I guess that would make her a Rhetta. Yesterday as I was removing the solid wood front door, I had unscrewed seven of the eight screws on the door jam and the eighth wasn’t budging so I took a hammer to it. The solid door fell hard and brought with it part of the door frame. It was stuck.

I tried to lift the girthy door to no avail. At least it was angled so that I could slide down out the front. After the initial thud and numerous attempts to move the front door I noticed a petite, beautiful butterfly floating around the scene. I then began to laugh. Butterflies find me wherever I go. I think of the thin veil between heaven and earth and since Maggie Lee’s  passing I think of her whenever a butterfly comes around. Their whimsy comforts me and I feel visited by these little beauties in an intentional way.

“Ok, little doodle. I guess you are here to help me lift this door? I am SURE that we can do this together. Maybe you could fly under here and give it a good push?” I just grinned and tried to hoist the wooden beast again and could not. I slid down the plank and approached the door from the left side. To my shock, with a modicum of effort, I raised the door.  Then I really started to laugh. “Thank you for the help little butterfly. Who knew you were so strong?”

The orange and black visitor never came particularly close. I cleared the front doorway and instantly the butterfly was gone. Do I think my daughter was reincarnated as a butterfly to help me lift a heavy door? Do I think the butterfly’s presence brought with it insane strength? No and no. Other than owning four dogs I am not crazy. But I am aware of the whisperings of God in my still, small moments and invite those moments with open spirit.

I love to see the dilapidated be reclaimed. Especially when that structure is me.

 

 

 

Beatitudes

Beatitudes Reimagined


Blessed are the found but even greater those lost inside God’s love; bereft of a Plan B, agenda-free and obsessed with God for God’s self alone.

Blessed are those with phenomenal rhythm but even more blessed are those who tune their lives to the eternal goodness of God and hum that other-worldly tune to such holy acts as taking out the trash.

Blessed are the full but how deeply blessed are those who willingly pull the plug on their pride reservoir and kneel before The Maker completely  aware of their soul’s insufficiency.

Blessed are the followed but far greater those who stalk Jesus like paparazzi, knowing that a glimpse of the Savior is worth more than a thousand follows.

Blessed are the beautiful but still more so those who have traded the ashes of broken dreams, failures and humiliations for the beauty God stands patiently ready to exchange.

Blessed are the rigid for their desk tops are organized but more blessed are those rigidly devoted to Christ who are more concerned with the logs in their own eyes than splinters in the eyes of another.

Blessed are the debate victors but far happier those who value their opponent as God’s own child rather than a foe to be eliminated. One open ear is more valuable than a hundred judgemental eyes.

Blessed are the recognized but still more vital are those with the uncanny knack to recognize potential in someone who has written off their own future. A week of encouragement beats a life of imprisonment.

Blessed are those deemed important but more blessed are those who see the importance of God’s redemption in this life. Just as one renovated home can bring change to an entire street so one redeemed parent can change the trajectory of generations.

Blessed are the powerful but, hear me, far greater the blessing of those who use power to help and heal the broken for that is to their eternal credit.

-Jinny Henson   January 2017

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Facebook Trolling

“The definition of insanity is posting the same opinions over and over again on social media and expecting a different result.” -jh

There’s a better way through these choppy waters than the anonymous slacktivism which is social media.  Facebook, Twitter and Instagram are the grown-up (yet infantile) reincarnations of the Slam Books which were circulated at Fondren Middle School in the 80’s. In the crisp blue-lined 3-hole-punched kingdom, anything went; cloaked in anonymity, any hateful thought or demeaning comment one had, one felt free to let fly. 

The unspoken observations of the masses became clear to the unsuspecting individuals through this medium. The profuseless perspirers from gym and the innocent 7th grader who got blamed for slamming the science door on Mr. Bloxom’s pointer finger and de-digitizing him became aware of their sub-humanness this way.  We clothed ourselves in starched polos and ribbon belts but what terrible judgements lurked just beneath the surface. These took voice in the hidden world of slam books. 

I know it sounds incredulous now since we are all grown up but in Middle School we only wanted to surround ourselves with people exactly like us. Then again we were mired in insecurity and had not established our identities on anything other than who our parents were and how hot our boy / girlfriend was. We were so silly. The substance of our character was no where nearly as vital as which jeans we wore or how perfectly our wings could be swooped back with our enormous combs.

The king of the hill in middle school was the one with the sharpest come backs, ” Oooh, burn! ” would echo down the hall as we all clamored to hear the insult. And the offended? Usually  laughter followed by a wince of pain or a threat of retaliation. Public humiliation of others was a commodity and if one was gifted in that art, friends and fans followed. The most popular kids were the ones with the greatest gifts of verbal insult. 

But enough about the 7th grade, let’s talk about our country. I am so refreshed when I venture onto social media and see respectful dissent and peaceful disagreement about our nation. What matters most to us seems to be one another and not our iron-clad opinions which people either completely agree with or are idiots.  Nice that there is that lush grassland of humility where other’s differing opinions do not bring hatred like a virus which we may catch if our ears civilly listen to an entire thought which fails to match up with our own. 

Aren’t you so thankful when you consider how far we have come since middle school? 
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Memorial for a Daughter 11 Years Later

Olinda is a mother, grandmother and spiritual giant. Like so often when humble people just keep moving in faith through brutal storms and arrive safely on the other side, one would never know the entirety of their struggle. That is where the power of story comes in. I love the map of hope which God reveals through the stories of other people. It awakens empathy for the individual but more than that a holy confidence in God. 

New Orleans was Olinda’s birthplace. She had few resources, many siblings, a parent with a quick temper and a neighbor who brought her to church. She grew up, worked, married and began a family. She kept the faith and instilled love for God and others to her children. One day, her adult son was tragically killed at an ATM machine in The Big Easy. A few years later her daughter died. Just days after losing her daughter, Hurricane Katrina wiped out her neighborhood. She lost everything. In the profound devastation of the flood, she never even had a memorial service for Arneker Denise. 

John interviewed Olinda and one Sunday played the video for our congregation. He is doing his Doctoral Thesis on the power of story within faith communities. That morning as The transplant’s account unfolded, the tears flowed. Not from the teller so much but rather from those of us hearing this for the first time. As if reading from a script, she recounted matter-of-factly the major events of her life. The compounded loss was just unthinkable to me. We remained quiet as the video came to completion. A holy hush of surreality descended upon the chapel. Against all odds and in the face of grief of Biblical proportion, Olinda still loved God. I was completely astounded. 

When The Spirit moves, amazing things happen. Ralph, an Elder in our church, was touched by Olinda’s story and approached John about having a long-awaited memorial service for Arneker Denise. What a brilliant idea. That service is happening tonight. This evening we honor someone most of us never knew who died more than a decade ago in a city at the opposite end of our state. We memorialize this child and stand amazed at her mother whose story has impacted us all. She is a flesh and bone example that God can enable a soul to enlarge when all circumstances would dictate it shrivel and disappear. That’s faith. That’s love. That’s one amazing story.

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A Better Grip on Reality

Christmas Day is over. Praise Santa.  My fun, fabulous Fall culminated in a Birthday trip to New York and a Church Open House 2 days after our return. Everything looks like a Saks Fifth Avenue Window in my imagination when I’m five weeks out. Five hours out I am scrambling like  the crazy boob vying for camera space on the Today Show Plaza. Ok that was me too. Because I thrive when given a deadline the inner-dialogue went like this:.”The house will be decorated, our people are chill, it’ll be great. I’ll have Saturday to cook, no sweat.”

Perfect plan had I not gone on a Pinterest jag and selected four recipes I had never tried. There was that one grown up grill cheese recipe I vaguely remember and that Hawaain roll ham & cheese Pyrex pan of pleasure, some crazy marshmallow brownie bliss and the baked potato dip which always slays. Always. It made sense that I could fly in Thursday Night, work Friday, bake Saturday & host Sunday. No margin, no sweat. If there’s a day on the calendar of course I can fill it with whatever I choose to do.

Just as we retain the physical image of our younger selves as we age, (once the vision fades you’re totally golden.) Likewise, we retain the unrealistic idea of what our capacities of time, treasure & talent are. I still assume I can paint an entire exterior of a house in a day like I did in my 30’s. Super funny story: so John left a red brick house and came home for lunch and the brick was grey. I’d do that and still have dinner on the table and be early to the business meetings to catch the deacon’s heads spin around 360 degrees at FBC, Alternate Universe. I was that good.

I am no stranger to the split personality. Instead of an angel on one shoulder competing against the devil on the other it is much more a game of degrees. I should be well-versed in saying no but people be sneaky these days. They come into my office and flatter my crafting skills and boom I’m doing the science fair styrofoam model of the life stages of a ferrel ground squirrel. Oh the line in the sand we passionately draw when hopped up on tryptophan and drunk on Hallmark Movies. Who IS this bizarre personality wrinkle and how are we blindly lead to the slaughter by such? You know the manic one who convinces you to volunteer to help people move.

This WILL happen because what I lack in self-discipline I more than make up for in Southern Veneer. As a bridesmaid for Cindy Greeno’s wedding in Atlanta in 1993,  I gave the seamstress measurements 2 inches too small as an “incentive” for me to get in shape for the wedding. Amazingly despite an actual girdle (pre-Spanx era) I still could not breathe. Thank God for the Herculean bouquet as it was the only thing to come between the general public and the thoroughly butt-sprung burnished lamé straight skirt.

I still think I’m 13 and can stay up til 4 working on Colleen’s Birthday Scrapbook while plugged into my Walkman until the double A batteries lag and turn Steve Perry into a baritone. I did it for love then and I do it all for love now. Of course our people came and were happy to be there and even ate my food (and some even left a bottle of wine for us to enjoy.) I am grateful to have more ideas than I could possibly complete, more marrow to suck from life and more adventures to come. To thine own self be true even if you must play mind games now and then.